It is important to remember that grief takes time. Be patient, take life one moment, one hour, one day at a time. While you may never ‘get over’ the death of your baby, you can learn to live with your loss. Healing is an ongoing process, it does not happen overnight, but it will happen. Following are a few suggestions that can help you survive some of the difficult times: Take care of yourself.
Eat well. Get plenty of rest. Stay well physically so that you can continue to heal emotionally. Express yourself in a way that fits who you are.
Talk about your baby, your feelings, your fears, your grief. Keep a diary, write a journal, create a flower garden or other special project that has meaning to you. These things can help the overwhelming grief that comes with keeping feelings bottled up inside. Explore available resources.
There are many books, articles, poems and videos that can provide information, guidance and support. There is a wealth of information on the Internet as well. Build a support network.
This may be your family, your friends or your faith community. You may want to contact a support group for parents who have experienced a similar loss, to share your story and feelings nand to learn from others who have also ‘been there.’ Try and be understanding of your partner’s needs.
There may be times when it is difficult to comfort each other. Being sensitive to your partners needs and finding others you can lean on during difficult times can helpful.